Family is a common theme in many narratives. It’s
something that is easy to do and always evokes some sort of reaction from the
audience. But what exactly is family? Does family only count those of blood
relation, or does it extend passed that? The answer to that isn’t exactly
clear, and if you look at pop culture the answer seems mixed. Personally, I
believe that family, your real family, are the people you choose.
In Supernatural, the importance of family is put
front and centre in the very first episode (a whole 240 episodes ago) when Dean
reunites with his brother Sam to go find their missing father, all the while
hunting the demon that killed their mother. Family is kind of a big deal in
Supernatural. But as the seasons progress, so does the idea of family. While at
the beginning family literally meant blood relations, it soon came to include
Bobby (who became a surrogate father to the boys), Ellen (a surrogate mother),
Jo, Charlie, Cas (an angel), Kevin (a prophet), Chuck (a writer, and (SPOILER)
God), and even Crowley (a demon). The following is one of the most quoted
exchanges on the show:
Dean: This isn't your fight.
Bobby: The hell it isn't! Family don't end
with blood, boy.
The fandom has taken this
and turned it into a way of life. The official name for the fandom is the
Supernatural family.
Bobby’s quote resonated with a lot of people,
including myself. Biologically speaking, my family is fairly small, and we’re
pretty spread out. Never mind that half of the family doesn’t speak to each
other. I always wanted a big family, I wanted to know that there were a ton of
people out there who loved me and cared for me, so I made my own. Because
family doesn’t end in blood, family is everyone that cares about you.
A favourite saying of people who think family is
blood relations is the old adage: “Blood is thicker than water!” And while that
statement has merits, it has been having a rough history as of late. A Rabbi
has come forward and said that the original phrase was closer to: “The blood of
the covenant is thicker than the waters of the womb.” It’s a statement I
personally agree with, however when one does a rudimentary search of the
phrase, there is no source of the statement before this Rabbi. Maybe that was
the original, maybe this Rabbi has a sense of humour, it’s hard to say and
harder to prove. This whole paragraph is basically pointless other than to answer
the question of why I didn’t use this quote pre-emptively.
How I Met Your Mother really took the idea of
choosing your family and ran with it. None of the main characters are related
by blood, but they were one of the closest families in television history. You
knew that they loved each other unconditionally. You knew that they would
always have each other’s backs, even when they were fighting. This idea that
your friend group could become your family has been instrumental in my own
understanding of the concept.
Family is important. Outside of nourishment and
shelter, it’s arguably the most important aspect of a person’s life. The idea
that our family is a group of people forced on us by simple genetics is ridiculous.
Family is not a title that is given out by right of birth, family is a title
that is earned and fought for. A friend—family member!—and I were talking about
this the other day, and summed up my beliefs thusly: “Way I see it, you got
blood relations, and you got family. Sometimes the blood relations don’t get to
be family.”
When I think of my own family, there are very few blood
relations that I would consider to be part of my real family, and I’m not
meaning any disrespect towards them, they just aren’t an influential part of my
day-to-day existence. I still consider
them family, just not family.
Obviously, my parents are part of those I consider to be my true family, and
the rest of you know who you are (hopefully).
Literally a quarter of this was just me talking about
Supernatural, and honestly I had to rein myself in. Other pop culture I was
going to touch on: Harry Potter, Arrow, Doctor Who and Torchwood, Star Trek,
Battlestar Galactica (2004), Frodo and Sam (Lord of the Rings for you
heathens), Guardians of the Galaxy (Peter Quill and literally everyone), Orphan
Black, KillJoys, Dark Matter, Chuck, Stargate SG-1 and Atlantis, and The
Expanse. Know what I wasn’t going to talk about? Friends. Those people were not
a family (other than Joey and Chandler).
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